“People hate to lose,” said the new friend whom I met at LAX and who used to be a dealer in Las Vegas. “It’s not fun to lose, so the people drink and then pick fights.”
We envy someone who won something we are not able to, who looks happier, or better than us, and this coveting may turn into bitterness and even into the desire to screw or curse that person.
Now I understand why the Bible says not to covet. Genesis tells that Cain, the first son of Adam and Eve, killed his brother Abel as the first murder in the history, because Cain was jealous of Able, whose offering was favored by God. Not only murder, but gossip, scorn, or harassment also may be often caused by jealousy.
A friend of mine, who returned from the U. S. to Japan, once said that as she was looking for some opportunity for volunteering, the value of which she had learned in the U. S., her friend said, ” Oh, I didn’t know you were such a good girl,” and discouraged her. This “hammering a standing-out nail” is also not unusual.
However Mother Teresa said this:
“People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.”
–from Mother Teresa’s Creed